Hey Friends, I wanna share my thought with you that why Quarrel happenss. I will brief it in my point of view with the example of siblings.
Siblings are the best give in our life from Allah after our parents. It will be the rear case, if we get a scenerio that siblinga are not Quarrel with each others. Though its my point of view, I will tell you my experience.
I have an elder sister. She is 3 years older than me. We are very similar in face but not in behavior. I wanna tell you a truth that whatever Now I am, The first reason of My Allah , and 2nd reason is my sister whom I address as “BuBu”.
From my childhood, she guides me about everything from study to sleep. How, when, why everything she explain to me to do something. So when she told me to do something or study, I become so angry and directly told her that I will never do it whatever You do to me. That’s why Quarrel happened between us. But The matter of sorrow was that My parents became silent mood. They didn’t scold my sister because they know whatever Bubu is doing that only for my welfare. I want to mention that I am so arrogant girl who nerver listen anyone order. But My sister order me to do. Basically quarrel needed between us. I seems to her as my enemy. ok let’s stopped it her.. because I want to tell you another story.
Allhamdulilah, I have Twin cousin. Their name is Champa and Shompa. It was hardly quarrel scenario between them in their childhood.
My mother always mentioned their name and told me “why two of are you not stay like them “.
Between two scenario of us, I find out the main cause of Quarrel and I explained to my mother that is mismatch thinking.
Though my sister is older, obviously she knows better than me. So she tries to guide me in proper way. But I could not capable to catch her worry or thinking because I was immature. Our thinking style was different and I was immature about surrounding. But for champa and shomapa are same age and their thinking capabilities are same. When champa tells shompa “hey let’s go for a ride or hangouts ” shomapa will agree. Because they do not know about any negative scenerio. But If I tell my sister, she will definitely disagree.
So My Thought is that Quarrel happens because of our thinking or point of views.
That’s all. I want to know your opinion too.